My Unborn Baby Isn’t OK: Here’s What I Need You To Do Right Now
And why telling me everything will be all right doesn’t help
“She’s dropped off the line, she’s not where she should be.”
No mother wants to hear that their baby isn’t the weight they should be, even if this news is heard with a plethora of positives and rational reasons as to why her baby may not have put on as much weight as they’re supposed to.
“It’s probably nothing, but we need to check.”
Probably.
No mother wants to hear “It’s probably nothing” because what a mother really hears when you say “It’s probably nothing” is that, actually, “there could be something.”
I was strapped to a machine. I couldn’t tell you the name of that machine because I was in a shocked daze, like a buffering computer that’s on its last legs, still being stuffed with extra information and files too huge to be processed by me, an old, worn-out machine on auto-pilot as I try to get through the examination in one piece.
“We need to monitor her movements and heartbeat to check she’s OK. Are you happy with the baby’s movements?”
“Yes,” I say, but I feel like it’s the wrong answer. It doesn’t match with what they’re telling me. You don’t monitor a…
